– Hazards of reading

This is an approximation of a conversation I had with Grace recently. While I did not invent her remarks, I did cut out some of the repetition. There also were a lot of thoughtful pauses I have eliminated.

Grace: How old do you think you’ll be when you die?

Jane: Old, I hope.

Grace: Who do you think will die first, me or you?

Jane: Me.

Grace: Who do you think will die first out of me and Eli and Lydia?

Jane: I don’t think about that. You all will live a long, long time.

Grace: Why do people have to die?

Jane: Because their cells wear out and they can’t last forever.

Grace: Why can’t we live always?

Jane: I’m so sorry. I know. I promise, though, you will live a long, long time and life will feel long enough.

Grace: How long?

Jane: Grace! Could we talk about something else? How about… what are we going to do tomorrow?

Grace: I can’t help it. I just keep thinking about this.

Jane: Why do you think that is?

Grace: Because I’ve been reading biographies.

Jane: Oh?

Grace: Yeah. And I’ve noticed — people are always dying in them.

– Rare photo

This is a rare photo of me without my disguise, I mean, my glasses.

Jane, outside the ICA, June 7

This photo is also rare in that how I felt in the moment (of my picture being taken) is how this picture looks: relaxed, unguarded, content. I like it.

Last summer, sitting around on my parents’ deck and talking to my siblings about life’s rough patches, and being photographed during them, I boasted about some great photos of myself, taken at perhaps my most miserable moment. One of my brothers laughed, and later said that he had a picture like that of himself.

I suppose the moral of this is that it is possible, on occasion, to put a good face on, but a person should not be asked to do that too much. It’s more peaceful when the inside and outside match.

Lydia told me I needed a new profile picture, and she provided it. The location is the ICA Boston, outside on the steps that look over the harbor; the date is Saturday, June 7, 2008.

– Conservation

If you ever accidentally dump a bottle of water into your purse or bag, as I’ve absentmindedly done a few times and Grace unwittingly did yesterday, and a notebook gets drenched, take heart: It is possible to save your writing, if not the paper itself.

Grace, notes

Gently tear the wet pages away from the binding, and lay them on top of drinking straws on top of a textureless cloth or mat. Let them dry for a day. Transcribe the stories — Grace, anticipating the end of the school year, has one on “No Homework!” and another on “Weather this Summer!” — into another notebook or file.

– Opposable thumbs

The tips of the nails on my thumbs are always notched, never rounded. The padding around the nails is usually cracked and, in the winter when it’s dry, split and bleeding. Every day these useful digits are under pressure.

My thumbs

With them, I peel stickers off apples; hold tiny bits, like garlic cloves and jalapeños, as I mince them; scrape dried paint drops off the floor; pry open the tightly sealed container of a glucose test strips bottle, six times a day; dislodge nits from children’s scalps and hair and pinch them off; peel up the ends of tape from the roll; snip withered leaves and blooms off plants as I walk by them; puncture plastic bags of mulch or frozen french fries; press a rubber eraser down on the page; pick snarls out of thread; unknot shoelaces; unbutton and button my pants; buckle belts and Mary Jane shoe straps; unscrew the empty reservoir from my insulin pump; fish coins out of my wallet; adjust a slipped bra or camisole strap; floss; and more.

When I, occasionally, use my teeth as tools — to open something stuck, or to bite open a knot — I hear my mother’s voice in my head: “You’re going to crack a tooth!” No one, however, objects when I maltreat my thumbs. They’re designed for many tasks, for any task.

Emily, my sister, broke both her thumbs when she landed and keeled backwards after completing a running long jump during Field Day activities in 8th grade. I was in college at the time, and I remember that sinking feeling of sympathy when my mother called me and told me about Em’s accident, and that her hands would be casted for six weeks.

Imagine six weeks without the use of your thumbs.

Photograph by Jimmy.